Ever wondered why is there so much of hype about it in the wellness world? I have and here’s the answer.
Our thoughts play a significant role in influencing our overall happiness and success. They can either build or ruin our life.
Needless to say, If we do not learn to control our mind, then eventually our mind will start to control us.
In today’s blog post, I am going to talk about a significant phase of the self-awareness journey, that is, Ways to cultivate the Right Mindset.
Now, before we go in further, there are 3 myths that you need to stay clear off. Positive Mindset,
- Equates to Being positive all the time.
- will solve all your life problems.
- gives you the key to ultimate happiness.
Let’s be real, one cannot be positive all the time and one cannot find a perfectly balanced life until he is completely detached from this world.
The ups and downs of our life is what makes it enjoyable. Opposing this fact will only lead to sadness and frustration.
Moving on, let’s talk about 7 ways to train yourself into a positive mindset person.
1. Feel your emotions, but set a time-frame
Ummm, Set a time-frame…..?
Yes, you heard it right. Many know that feeling your emotions is important but only a few know that there should be a limited time-frame for it.
Our emotions have the capability to influence our mindset, productivity and even our day. Needless to say, This can be both a good thing and a bad thing.
On some days we may feel motivated and pumped up to reach our goals and on other days, well, life happens.
We go through heartbreaks, rejection, humiliation etc. These emotions can ruin our week and even worse, it can push us into long-term sadness.
We come to the realization that we have wasted much of our time focusing on that one particular incident, instead of working on having a better future.
‘Better future’ can vary from person to person. It can range from becoming a better human to earning more money.
Having a set time to feel your emotions will not only help you save time for being productive, but it will also stop you from getting overwhelmed.
Okay, how do you do it?
Well, It is simple. You can set aside some time from your day for feeling your emotions.
I prefer doing it for one hour before going to bed. You can set the time according to your convenience.
Whenever we are stressed or burdened by something, we usually seek the solution in the outside world. When in reality, the answer is within us.
So, the question is, how do we find the answer inside us?
One word. Introspection.
Introspection is the process of analyzing one’s behaviour, thoughts and emotions. In simpler words, You can call it self-reflection or self-contemplation.
Introspection is a painful yet vital part of achieving self-awareness. Whether it be our shortcomings or goodness, It presents us the truth the way it is.
The process can be uncomfortable in the beginning, but you will eventually realize that it’s worth all the pain.
3. Positive affirmations
Affirmations are a form of encouragement that motivates one to take practical steps to achieve and believe (in themselves) more. For instance,
If you want to feel more loved, you can affirm ‘I am loved’. This may boost your self-esteem.
But hey, you need to be practical while using it. If you affirm ‘I am good at studies’ and don’t touch a book for months, then you will obviously fail.
However, If it does not seem to work, don’t force it. It is not meant for everyone.
4. Try to find happiness in small things
In my opinion, If you have a shelter to rest under, and get food twice a day, then you have every reason to find happiness in small things.
Sounds clichè, I know, but it is the truth. Well, okay fine, here are some quick tips that will help you find more hapiness..
- Expect Less and living in the moment.
- Enjoy what you do. If you are not happy with you then either make your task enjoyable or find some othet path.
- Live for today. Enjoy the tasks that come your way.
- Don’t find an excuse to be sad.
- Stop focusing on uncontrollable things.
In moments where you feel sad and hopeless about, remind yourself about other things that you can be happy about.
5. Failure is your teacher
Whether it is becoming an expert in your choice of career or being a good mother, every field has highs and lows of its own and trying to escape failure is escaping the inevitable.
We have been raised telling us that failure is bad, but in reality, it is the best time for us to introspect our decisions.
it all comes with failure. This should not let you equate failure with embarrassment or degrade your self-esteem. Treat it as your teacher.
Life does not come with written sets of rules. So, When you accidentally move in the wrong direction, life redirects your path. This is what failure is.
When you fail don’t be disheartened because failure is life redirecting you when you go wrong. Once you acknowledge and accept this, there is nothing that can stop you from moving forward in your life.
6. Focus on the present
For some of us, moving on from our past mistakes seems impossible.
Yet there are others who effortlessly carry on with their life without being bothered by their past.
With determination and persistence, Even you can achieve such phase of mind.
Here’s an exercise for you, Try this.
Close your eyes and try to feel your surrounding. Don’t think about anything else, only listen and feel.
Feel the quietness in your room, the sound of the vehicles passing by and the birds chirping.
Now open your eyes. Don’t think what happened 10 seconds ago and what you need to do immediately after this.
Do you feel any pain, sadness or anything at the moment? This is what living in the present and enjoying the moment feels like.
Do let me know how you felt in the comment section down below. I am excited to hear your answers.
Living in the present moment is not just a tip but a lifestyle.
A lifestyle that helps us to remain free of anxiety, unwanted thoughts and brooding which are usually the root causes of our problems.
7. Surround yourself with right group of people
You are the average of 5 people you hang out with the most.
The people you interact with the most influence your mood, mindset, perspective on the world and on yourself.
Here are the characteristics of right group people. They,
- Always encourage and motivate you.
- Are happy when you succeed.
- Honestly point out your shortcomings and help you learn from them.
- Lend you the knowledge to succeed.
Raise your standards and cut off the toxic and unwanted people from your life. It does not matter if you have been with them since childhood.
Raise your standards in every aspect of your life. Not because you are superior to others but to have a good and productive future ahead.
You may go off the track several times. Nothing to worry about! It happens with everyone but don’t use it as an excuse.
After all, a positive mindset is not a switch that can be turned off and on whenever you wish.
Whenever you feel like giving up, remember that it is not your success that matters but the struggles that you went through to achieve that success.
And as I promised, here’s your Checklist Template!
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